A heartbreaking letter written by a dying young woman is going viral after she passed away last week.
On the 4th of January, Holly Butcher lost her battle with Ewing’s sarcoma, a rare form of cancer that affects mostly young people. She was just 27 years old.
Before she died, the Australian penned a letter, which she asked her family to post on her Facebook account once she was gone.
The message includes Butcher’s moving insights as a 27-year-old woman forced to confront her mortality, despite not having done so many things she’d hoped and planned to do.
“It’s a strange thing to realize and accept your mortality at 26 years young,” she reflected. “It’s just one of those things you ignore. The days tick by and you just expect they will keep on coming; until the unexpected happens. That’s the thing about life,” she noted. “It is fragile, precious and unpredictable and each day is a gift, not a given right,” she said, adding, “I’m 27 now. I don’t want to go.”
After spending time reflecting on how she would live her life if she could overcome the disease, Butcher decided to share her advice with those who get to keep on living. In just a few days it’s had almost 57,000 shares and more than 73,000 reactions.
As a reminder to not sweat the small stuff, Butcher told her readers that they wouldn’t be worrying about their daily troubles when they are on their deathbed. “You might have got caught in bad traffic today, or had a bad sleep because your beautiful babies kept you awake, or your hairdresser cut your hair too short. Your new fake nails might have got a chip, your boobs are too small, or you have cellulite on your arse and your belly is wobbling. Let all that sh–t go,” she urged. “I swear you will not be thinking of those things when it is your turn to go. I’m watching my body waste away right before my eyes with nothing I can do about it and all I wish for now is that I could have just one more birthday or Christmas with my family, or just one more day with my partner and dog. Just one more.”
Butcher wrote that we should be more mindful with money, and spend it on things that make other people happy rather than more stuff for ourselves. “It is a weird thing having money to spend at the end, when you’re dying. It’s not a time you go out and buy material things that you usually would, like a new dress. It makes you think how silly it is that we think it is worth spending so much money on new clothes and ‘things’ in our lives,” she said. “Buy your friend something kind instead of another dress, beauty product or jewelry for that next wedding … take them out for a meal, or better yet, cook them a meal. Get their coffee. Give or buy them a plant, a massage or a candle and tell them you love them when you give it to them.”
Lateness is something that irritates a lot of people, and Butcher insightfully summed up why that is — because it shows disrespect for the other person and their time, which is limited. “Value other people’s time. Don’t keep them waiting because you are sh-t at being on time. Get ready earlier if you are one of those people and appreciate that your friends want to share their time with you, not sit by themselves, waiting on a [friend]. You will gain respect too.”
She also came to the realization that documenting your life for social media dilutes the power of the moment while you’re actually living it. “Try just enjoying and being in moments rather than capturing them through the screen of your phone. Life isn’t meant to be lived through a screen nor is it about getting the perfect photo … enjoy the bloody moment, people! Stop trying to capture it for everyone else.”
Butcher’s final point might be the most important. Receiving blood donations allowed her to live for an extra year, and she urged everyone to donate blood regularly. “Blood donation (more bags than I could keep up with counting) helped keep me alive for an extra year — a year I will be forever grateful that I got to spend here on earth with my family, friends and dog. A year I had some of the greatest times of my life.”
Source: Fox News, Lifestyle, http://www.foxnews.com/lifestyle/2018/01/10/27-year-old-dying-womans-heartbreaking-letter-goes-viral.html, January, 10, 2018